it really is an underrated aspect of lesbianism the way that loving other women makes it easier to love yourself.
i know others have experienced this, but the more comfortable i get with being a lesbian the more i find that i don’t really feel as insecure about my “flaws” anymore. it’s hard to hate myself for having body fat, cellulite, stretch marks, short nails, an inability to apply makeup, body hair, eyebags, and so on when i literally find these things sexy on other women.
based on some activity i’m seeing in the tags, i’d just like to say that while i wrote this specifically about my experiences this isn’t a phenomenon exclusive to lesbians and that bi women can and do absolutely experience this. love between women is beautiful in all forms and can inspire so much self love and transgresses patriarchal expectations put on us
i’d also like to say that while a lot of us wlw do feel that finding ourselves promoted both our love for other women and self, the lesbian and bi community absolutely does still suffer under patriarchal racist transphobic and fatphobic beauty standards and that we need to keep ourselves accountable and aware at all times. we need to see beauty beyond ourselves and respect those who formed our communities because being wlw does not opt you out of harmful attitudes and behaviors.
